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Baggage Check

Jenna was sitting on a park bench, watching the sun dip below the Nairobi skyline. It was one of those rare moments when she had a bit of free time Mimi was with her aunt, and she had decided to take a break from her usual chaos. But peace wasn’t something Jenna was used to; her mind was racing with thoughts about her latest dating escapade.

“Hey, mrembo!” a voice interrupted her thoughts. It was Alex, a guy she had met on a dating app a few weeks back. He had charmed her with his witty texts and the promise of fun adventures. But there was one thing Jenna hadn’t quite processed yet: Alex had a baby mama.

“Hi, Alex!” she replied, trying to mask her unease with a smile. She knew she needed to keep it casual, but the fact that she was about to enter into a world with someone who had a whole other life was daunting.

“What are you doing here?” he asked, sliding onto the bench beside her. 

“Just enjoying some quiet time. It’s rare for me to get any! Mimi's with my sister,” she said, attempting to sound upbeat. 

Nice,” he nodded. “We should do something fun. Maybe go to that new rooftop bar? I heard the view is amazing.”

Jenna felt a flutter of excitement. “Sounds good! But… you know, I have to ask. How’s the co-parenting situation with your baby mama?”

Alex hesitated, and Jenna could see the gears turning in his head. “Well, it’s complicated. We’re on good terms, but you know how it goes…” 

“Complicated how?” Jenna pressed, her curiosity piqued. 

“She gets jealous sometimes, especially when I’m dating. It’s not easy.”

“So, you’re still dealing with some emotional baggage, huh?” she said, raising an eyebrow. 

“Yeah, something like that.” He chuckled, brushing it off, but Jenna could see the slight tension in his shoulders. 

“I get it,” Jenna said, leaning back. “You know, I have my own baggage. Like a whole suitcase of it.”

“What do you mean?” he asked, intrigued. 

Well, dating as a single mom comes with its own challenges. Between nap schedules, tantrums, and finding someone who gets that I can’t just drop everything for a night out…” 

True,” Alex said, nodding. “But isn’t it worth it to take that risk?”

“Sometimes,” Jenna admitted. “But it’s also about finding someone who understands that I come with a whole package. Not just me, but my baby too. And that can scare a lot of guys away.”

“I won’t lie, it is intimidating,” Alex said, glancing away. “But I’m willing to try. I want to get to know you… and your kid too.”

His sincerity caught Jenna off guard. Maybe he wasn’t just another guy looking for a casual fling. 

“You really mean that?” she asked, a mixture of hope and skepticism in her voice.

“Absolutely. I mean, we all have baggage, right?” he smiled. “It’s all about how you carry it.”

Jenna felt a wave of relief wash over her. “Okay then. Let’s give it a shot. But I have to warn you, I might be the most high-maintenance low-maintenance person you’ll ever meet.”

“I can handle it,” he laughed. 

As they sat there, laughter mingling with the evening breeze, Jenna realized that maybe, just maybe, opening up about her baggage wasn’t as scary as she had thought. With each conversation, they were not only navigating the complexities of dating but also building a connection that could accommodate both of their lives, baggage and all.

Jenna felt a sense of hope blooming inside her. Maybe this was the beginning of something interesting.

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